As you become conscious of the choices you are making, you may find yourself asking, “Where did that choice come from?” Maybe you are looking at changing jobs, and you find yourself looking at jobs that you don’t really like, but you think are the right way to go.
Ask yourself, what is right about the job?
You may find that you are leaning towards it because it has certain qualities. Maybe the job would be secure, or makes a lot of money, or has high prestige. Feel into what is underneath the initial reasons to consider that job.
Also, ask yourself, “Where did the importance of that quality come from?” You might find that your parents valued security, or some other aspect of the job. Or some other person who you looked up to in your life.
From there you can ask yourself, “Do I really believe that security is important?” Maybe yes, maybe no. Either way, you are finding your way closer to owning what you want.
If, for example security (or some other quality) isn’t that important to you, or you don’t really believe security is that real these days, then you can decide to release that aspect of the jobs you are looking at. This will free you up to look for qualities in your new job, that are more meaningful for you personally.
This practice can help you through the new experience of making choices for yourself.
It’s the same for any choice you are making… job, relationship, behavior, how you load the dishwasher!
Enjoy watching your choices this week, and becoming more conscious of what the underlying values are for each choice.
My next Blog post will be about the Push and Pull of Power.